Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Social Thinking

Is your child struggling to make and keep friends?

One of the big problems for children in Special Education is social skills. The schools can talk about social skills, but "talking" about them doesn't help much. Students can hear about them, but they have to have opportunities to use them in safe environments.

Recently I was looking for programs to help students learn social skills, and a friend in Huntley recommended Mary Topolinski and her Social Thinking program.

Mary conducts Social Thinking instruction, training, coaching with teens and with other age groups. This friend told me that she knows several parents who said Mary made a big impact on their kids.

You can check out Mary's work at www.mjthinkssocial.com/

I don't know Mary yet, but she probably has ideas about places to make and find friends and to socialize.

Years ago a therapist recommended social skills training by the University of Illinois at Chicago, but I was never able to track down classes. They might have been in Skokie or some other town miles and miles away - a lot of good that does the student in Woodstock who is trying to develop social skills!

Monday, August 30, 2010

Parent survey - do it now

The Family Resource Center on Disabilities has passed along information about an important surveys prior to US Department of Education, Office of Special Education Programs (OSEP), visits in Illinois before the end of 2010. I highly recommend the FRCD. Back in 1997 I attended one of its Special Education Rights workshops, and it was a solid foundation for my advocacy for my stepson here in Woodstock.

Parents of children ages 0-3 and 3-21 are invited to complete the surveys. FRCD wrote:

Dear Illinois Families:

On November 2, 2010, the U.S. Department of Education, Office of Special Education Programs (OSEP) will be visiting:

the Illinois Department of Human Services to review the effectiveness of Illinois following the rules and regulations for Early Intervention Services under Part C (0-3) of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA);

OSEP will also be visiting the Illinois State Board of Education to review the effectiveness of Illinois following the rules and regulations under Part B (3-21) of IDEA.

OSEP has requested the Parent Training and Information Centers of Illinois to survey parents about their experience and knowledge with the special education system in Illinois. This is a great opportunity for you to contribute to the improvement of the delivery of special education services for the children with disabilities in Illinois.

Please take a moment to complete the survey if you have children who have recently received or are currently receiving special education services. We invite you to forward this survey to other families for their input.

The survey links are:

Part C (0-3 year old)
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/W77JN97

Part B (3-21 year old)
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/FDJ5Z76

If you have any questions, please contact the Family Resource Center on Disabilities at (312) 939-3513.

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The Family Resource Center on Disabilities (FRCD) offers parents of children with disabilities birth to 21 years old, their helpers, relatives, professionals, and interested community members no-cost training and workshops, telephone and e-mail assistance, and resources to help claim their role as the child's most effective and significant advocate.

You are invited to contact FRCD for information, resources, support and training. FRCD is located at 20 East Jackson Blvd., Room 300, Chicago, IL 60604. For information, visit www.frcd.org/, call 312-939-3513 or write to info@frcd.org

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Service Animal OK in school


An Illinois appeals court smacked down a school district recently.

The Fourth District Appellate Court considered a case brought to it to allow a first-grade student to have his service dog, Chewey, in school. The Villa Grove School District (located southeast of Champaign, Ill.), in its infinite wisdom, apparently had thought the dog was a pet and didn't want the student to bring the dog to school.

The court, however, ruled in favor of Kaleb Drew and ordered that the school allow him to take his autism helper dog to school. The family's argument was that the boy's yellow Labrador retriever is a service animal. (Pictured is an example of a service dog.)

How does this animal help Kaleb? According to the boy's mother, the "dog prevents the boy from running away, helps him focus on his homework and calms him when he has a tantrum."

Service dogs wear vests that identify them as service animals. Please do not approach a service animal or attempt to pet it. The animal is not a pet. When it is wearing its vest, it is working. Usually the owner will ask you to step back, if you approach a service animal for the purpose of petting it.

Please be considerate of service animals. You don't have to go out of your way to avoid them; just act as if they aren't there.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Tonight - anti-bullying vigil

Tonight at 7:00PM there will be a vigil in memory of a Johnsburg boy and other children who have committed suicide after being bullied, sometimes for years.

The candlelight vigil will begin at 7:00PM at the Midwest Bank, 3805 N. Johnsburg Road, in Johnsburg.

Bullying is occurring in many McHenry County schools. My own experience with the Woodstock School District is that heads nodded when bullying was reported, and District officials re-affirmed the Safe Schools policy.

And bullying continued.

It starts in the grade schools, and there is where it should be nipped in the bud. When it occurs in middle and high schools, discipline should be swift and firm.

It's not. And so it continues.

In one case of which I have personal knowledge, a consultant from the Illinois State Board of Election had been called in and she herself observed bullying in the classroom - by staff!!!

It's a good thing she was called in. What teacher would have ratted out another teacher for bullying a student?

Monday, August 2, 2010

Parent Empowerment Call - August 5

Illinois Department of Human Services, Division of Mental Health, Child & Adolescent Services would like to invite all Illinois parents of children with emotional and/or behavioral health concerns to join in on the upcoming Parent Empowerment Call.

Parent Empowerment Calls are held monthly on the first Thursday of the month. Two sessions are available, available times and dial in numbers details are listed in the attachment included with this notice.

The next Parent Empowerment Call is scheduled for Thursday, August 5, 2010 from 12:00-1:00 PM
Toll Free Access 1-800-260-0712
Participant Access Code: 120964

This is a toll free educational call being offered to all parents in Illinois who have a child with an emotional and/or behavioral concern, and will focus on giving parents information they need to advocate for and support their children.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Two Choices - Shay's Story

I don't know the source of this story. I've seen it before and was happy to receive it again today. Enjoy. And feel free to forward it. Use the little white envelope at the end of the story.

Two Choices

What would you do? You make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made the same choice?

At a fund-raising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

”When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.”

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.

Where is the natural order of things in my son?

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.

Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart . The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, “Shay, run to first! Run to first!”

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, “Run to second, run to second!”

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball - the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.

He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman' s head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, “Shay, Shay, Shay, all the way Shay.”

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, “Run to third! Shay, run to third!”

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, “Shay, run home! Run home!”

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team

That day, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world.

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Build advocacy skills this Saturday

Summer is a great time for building your skills to be an effective Parent Advocate for your child. On Saturday, July 10, at 10:00AM a two-hour workshop in Chicago will offer families ways to effectively advocate in many different situations with a variety of agencies and systems of care or services.

What will you learn?
- What advocacy means;
- How to improve your advocacy skills; and
- How you can make a difference for your family member.

Almost every week I hear that school personnel hate to hear the word "advocacy". Use of a more politically-correct term is recommended, so "they" don't get upset.

Well, folks, you can pussy-foot around the issue, or you can stand up for your child. When you stand for your child, you are standing up for all children.

Where is the workshop?

Family Resource Center on Disabilities
20 East Jackson Blvd., Room 300
Chicago
Phone: (312) 939-3513
Email: info@frcd.org

The cost? It's FREE!!! (but pre-registration is required)
Remember Saturday's deal on Metra fares, too.